Patterns - Controlling, others by  Manipulating, Undermining,  Unbalancing, Disempowering or just being very Difficult

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The answer is to use a stronger GRIPP

Just another short code to help remind you of how you can protect yourself from C-MUD slingers.

Stay in your Grown up place              GR

Connect to your Powerful Inside Me skills          I

Use your Personal power to Protect yourself          PP

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Get a better GRIPP

Your powerful Inside Me  “I” skills

Control-MUD slingers don’t know how to use these skills. You do.

Use Your Imagination, Initiative, Intuition, Empathy,  Innovation, Inspiration, Independence, Instinct,  Inventing, Incentive, Intangible thoughts, Impartial Ideas,  Impulse,  Illumination Innate-understanding,and of course Integration.

Vital Understandings

* People who feel they have to control others using Control-MUD are driven by a critical fear. Hidden inside them is a child-like sense of shame and insecurity, about not being able to control enough.  “If people can't control their own emotions, then they have to try to control other people's behavior.”    …..       Robin Skynner

* They fling C-MUD to hide their own fear and shame. Like a frightened kid, even if it doesn’t work the first three times they just try harder the next time. The more practice they get the more skilled they are at Control-MUD slinging. Their aim becomes incredibly accurate.

* Grown-ups don’t fling Control-MUD. Someone may  look and sound like a grown up but if they are flinging Control-MUD it’s a clear sign their emotional maturity is very weak or missing.

* If you’re still being controlled or manipulated too much it’s because you are giving too much power away to these scared people.

* If you are giving too much power away then you are also sending out highly visible signals that tell Control-MUD people exactly what you’re willing to do to help them control you. (They just love that!)

* There  are many different kinds of Control-MUD Get to know them all

* Control-MUD only sticks if you allow it to get inside you (use your  GRIPP shield)

* You can’t chuck Control-MUD  back but you can deflect it

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What is C-MUD?

A code to help you see clearly when people are trying to:

Control you in negative ways                                                 C
 by                                                                                         -

*   Manipulating you (using Pretend Power or Power Pinching)    M


*   Undermining or Unbalancing you                                     U


*   Disempowering you or Labelling  you                 D

 *  or are just being very very Difficult                     + D


*  Manipulating you (using Pretend Power or Power Pinching)    

* Undermining or Unbalancing you                                           


*  Disempowering you or Labelling  you                                     

         * or are just being very very Difficult                     + D